About two weeks before I was cruising around through Central Park West and I was stopped by a beautiful woman in her mid 30s. After the usual greeting exchanged and destination was given she asked me straight out..” Sir..what do you think if a couple fights all the time…if the difference between them is so big that there is no way to reconcile..?” She seemed to be very open to express her feelings and I was just taken aback by her bold expression..
I smiled because it reminded me a situation where I had to literally shout at a couple for fighting inside my taxi. She asked me what was the reason for my smile. I explained the reason and I told her that to answer her question I needed some basic information. She told me,” My husband is 54 years old from Cuba and I am a 35 years old white woman. I am highly educated having Masters and he has only basic education. My family is rich and he is from a very poor family..he is very laid back on the other hand I am very hard working and ambitious. He does not want to work and sits home all day..he smokes drinks too much…I hate smoking and I drink only wine occasionally. I have been married for about 5 years and I was not happy for even one day.”
I listened to her very patiently and then asked,” You two are totally opposite to each other..He is from Mars and You are from Venus..then how in the world you two ended up being married and stayed married for 5 years..?” I told her that the simplest answer of my question is..Opposite attracts..right..? She agreed with me.
Since we were coming closer to her destination I told her.” Ma’m..it seems to me that you should not have got married to begin with..then again..you can not undo it..so the best thing for you should be to get a divorce as soon as you can because before even you know you will spend another 5 years with this man whom you sure don’t love anymore..in fact I am not sure you even loved him for one day. What you had was not love..it was just infatuation and you misunderstood it for love.”
She stopped me,” You are right …now that I can see things much clearer..it was indeed infatuation..he is pressuring me to have baby but I told him that I would never have baby from him as I can not handle another one like him.”
I told her,” Ma’m for some odd reason it seems that this is your best decision and it will be easier to get a divorce so that you will not have any tie with him. If you don’t love him..just let him go..you will do both of you a favor. Life goes on..10/20 years down the road..you will not even remember most of the things about him and it will be a distant memory but if you do not divorce him..you will be miserable for the rest of your life and I am sure you don’t want that. You are 35 years old and you have to get your first baby very soon otherwise there is a chance that you will have trouble during the pregnancy because of your age.”
She agreed with me and said that she will have to act on it and start filling for divorce. We reached the destination and she paid me handsomely and thanked me for helping her taking the right decision.
Friends…why did I tell her to divorce her husband..you may ask. See..I sensed in her voice that she already has made her mind up to divorce him and all she was asking is to validate her decision. I knew no matter what I said she would not change her mind so who am I to change her mind. I could feel that she was miserable with him who was 19 years older than her..the priority is totally different between them. So I just gave her some mental strength to take the decision so that she does not prolong the situation. Hope I was not wrong. What do you think my friends..?