Dear Friends…I am extremely sorry that I could not write for few days. I do want to write very frequently or at least one post in every two days but last week was not a good one for me. I was not feeling well during the whole week and then came the worst part which is one of my relatives died. From the beginning of this universe whoever or whatever living being came had to die one day. Death is the only certain thing that will happen to any living being. All death is sad and all death affects us in one way or another. We don’t want to leave this beautiful world…There are so many people who are suffering from different kinds of diseases but ask all those sick people I am sure most of those will choose to live even with sickness. Life is beautiful, this earth is beautiful, or kids are beautiful, all those trees, all those clouds are beautiful and who wants to leave all these behind…? None of us or at least most of us. But life is stranger than fiction. No one knows when his/her time comes and when it does..we just have to go leaving the family, friends, and everything else what we call life. As I said the only reality is death but I want to know how do we really want to go..? Do we really want to go while in sleep like my relative who died last week or we want to go slowly like my own uncle who suffered for more than a year and half and then died. Lets examine the whole situation.
Last week Wednesday night my relative helped wife to clean the kitchen, washed dishes and then watched TV till midnight. He did not have to go to work because he was supposed to pick up his friend from airport so he took a day off from his work but his wife had to go to work in the morning so she went to sleep. The next morning before she went to work she wanted her husband to wake up as he had to go to the airport. She tried to wake him up and then she found his hands were very cold but his body was still warm. She got scared and called 911. They arrived within few minutes and they pronounced him dead. That’s it. He was gone forever.
Now the harsh reality for his wife and two little kids once he was buried. His wife has no idea how they will survive after he is gone. She has no idea if he had any bank account or insurance, she does not know if he had any other wish regarding his kids..how can you accept that the man was here just few days before and she will never see him again..his kids will never yell ..hey Pop.. All she does is crying..
On the other hand like my own uncle who died after a long suffering in the hospital..when he became sick for the first time we all used to go to see him everyday to give him company..slowly it became once in every few days, then once in a week and then once in every 10/12 days and then …once a month…we all had to go to work, his sons had to go to school, his wife had to work and so on…the hardest part was to see him dying slowly ..all those different devices were attached to his body..he could not even move at one point..all day long he just kept looking to the empty white ceiling..at one point he could not recognize anyone..even his own wife and kids..
The whole situation became very normal for everyone..all the important days like birthdays, anniversary, religious day came and gone..finally one day he was gone..we got a call from the hospital..we ran to the hospital and he was gone. He used to be 190 to 200 lbs and when he died he was may be 40 lbs. The death was very much anticipated as we could not see him decaying in front of our eyes. So when he died we did not feel that sadness what we felt that he was finally out of pain.
So which way to die is better..? My observation in neither..because when someone dies in his/her sleep..it may be better for the dead person as the suffering is minimum but the family suffers most… on the other hand, when death comes slowly..the family gets time to organize but the the dead person suffers most. Which one to choose…? The answer is we can’t..it is not in our hand.
So my friends..which way is the best way to die..? In my opinion since we can not choose the way..all we have to do is to go with the time…